First Smiles

Sam is always happy after he feeds! (Yes, that's a milk beard)

Nothing is more rewarding after 6 weeks of staying up all night with nothing to show but a cranky attitude and a garbage can full of dirty diapers then seeing your baby’s first smile. Finally some response that you are doing a bang up job!

Aaron - a bit more demure, but still smiling!

Both Sam and Aaron gave me wonderful smiles this week, right when all the books say the first smile should show up.

Which reminds me of all the other things I should be doing for them, like tummy time. I should find the play mat and get it out for them to start trying to reach things.

And this reminds me of all the other things I should be doing for the older boys, like redoing their closets, packing up the long sleeves and pants in favor of summer clothes.

But all that can wait. This is my mother’s last day in Chicago. My last day to dump the twins on her so I can rest. This morning I sent the older boys out with the sitter for the morning to play at the park. Right now I need to lay down and get as much sleep as I can! So good night … until tomorrow.

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Fresh Picks (June 6th)

We got a wonderful array of unusual vegetables this week.

Fresh Picks June 6th

Asparagus, Garlic Scapes, French Breakfast Radishes, Yukina Savoy, Cilanto, Cucumber and Leeks.

After much research on the internet, I was able to find interesting things to do with all of them.

Garlic Herb Shrimp Skewers, Cream of Chicken Pasta, Grilled Asparagus and Garlic Scapes

I had already bought chicken breast I planned on grilling with a dry rub I picked up at Gepperth’s Market also some shrimp skewers from Whole Foods. I added the asparagus and garlic scapes to the grill, simply seasoned with olive oil, salt and pepper. I actually wasn’t crazy about the garlic scapes. Don’t think I would try them again this way.

I read over and over again on the internet that the French Breakfast Radishes were eaten by the French raw, sliced lengthwise, with salt and a dollop of butter. Sometimes you put them on crusty french bread. When it comes to food, I think it’s wise to follow the French! It was an unusual taste, refreshing with a bit of bitter.

The Yukina Savoy was much like all the millions of Chinese greens out there that can be prepared the same way, either parboiled or sauteed then add a bit of asian sauce for flavor. I happen to have bought Salmon this week, which was already marinating in Soy Vay Teriyaki sauce. I baked it in the oven on a high temperature, laid it on a bed of brown rice and served it with the Yukina Savoy, parboiled then plunged in ice water. I added a little oyster sauce on the top and served. It was delicious.

Cilantro? Added to guacamole.

Leeks? Sauteed with any left over veggies in the fridge and added to a quiche.

Cucumber? Added to this week’s salads.

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On Becoming Your Mother

There are many ways the phrase “you’ve become your mother” can be flattering to me. Her joy de vivre for food and travel, how much energy she has for her age, and how young she’s managed to look. However, not everything about that statement is always flattering.

This morning Mom and I were talking about the wash. She mentioned she is missing a pair of underwear. The underwear probably got mixed up in my drawer. Did I have it? She wanted to know.

What did it look like? White? Hanes?

Well that’s what I’m wearing these days, due to my c-section. I need granny underwear that doesn’t cut into my scar.

And that’s when Adam turned to me and said, “I just want to go on record here that you are wearing the same underwear as your mother.”

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Happy Birthday Hedy!

The Photo Booth

The long and exhausting day on Saturday took a turn for the better around 5:30.

I had a pedicure at 5:30. I felt bad walking out of the house, leaving Adam and my mother with four kids. Adam already seemed at his limit with Ben’s new habit of hysterical fits for no reason. But there was only so much vanity I could give up for these kids. So I left. Walking out of the chaos of our house onto the street is a surreal experience. Every moment there is someone crying, a diaper to change, someone to get food for, or breast feed. Someone to bath, someone to dress, someone who needs a toy fixed, the TV turned on, a boo-boo kissed. Open and close a single door and … silence.

Hedy and Mark

After the relaxing pedicure our babysitter from last year, who recently moved back to town, arrived. Adam and I headed out to the Paris Club for our friend Hedy’s 40th birthday. They rented the private room and had a very cool, “ooh la la … oy vey” themed party. There was drinks, great food and a photo booth which we spent a lot of time playing in.

I feel like I’ve seen a lot of 40th birthday parties in the past few years. Few are great. One was more like a party for your 21st birthday. Another more like what you would do at your 60th. But this party was perfect. Hedy had the luck of good friends, a happy marriage, a lovely daughter and a progressive career. Her husband gave a speech praising her as a mother and also said she looks even hotter now than she did when they first met.

Sweet Mandy B's - Yum!

It was so nice to sit down and have food served to you. No one was crying for my attention. No one was fighting and needed refereeing. We had actual, uninterrupted adult conversation!

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Exhausting & Long Day

Friday night was another rough one. Adam was exhausted from waking up at 2am that morning to start work, and by 10:00pm we were still holding a baby each, trying to rock them to sleep so we could put them in the crib.

By 10:30pm I had mine in the crib but Adam, no luck. He suggested he just sleep with the baby on his chest as we used to do with Jack. But that would mean he would be woken shortly for another feed. I took the baby from him and said, “Go to sleep. No need for both of us to be up all night.”

And up all night I was. I fed one baby after the other from 12 to 1am. At 1:15 in the morning Ben ran out of the room looking for me and I took him back to his room and laid in his bed until 2:30am when one of the babies started to cry again. I was up feeding them both until 3:15am. At 5:30 in the morning they fed again and were up for the morning. Jack was up by 6:30am. I heard Ben again at 5:15 but Adam managed to get him to go back to sleep until 7:30.

We had a full day planned for Saturday. Eye appointment at 10am, Costco, kids birthday party from 1-3, pedicure at 5:30 so I would look presentable tonight, then the sitter was coming by at 6:30 to help my mother so Adam and I could go to our friend’s 40th birthday party which started at 7:30.

Adam's New Twin Carrier

I was hoping Ben’s sleep in would mean he would be in a better mood. Having twins has hit him hard. It doesn’t help that it coincides with the ‘terrible two’s”. Our sons must be late bloomers because the ‘terrible twos’ seem to start closer to age three. Lately he’s taking to flopping his body down anywhere and kicking and screaming in a full out tantrum for no reason at all. I mean, there is always a reason, but the response doesn’t match the reason. Like today at the party he was upset his juice spilled. He cried for over an hour on the floor at the birthday party. Kicking and screaming and throwing pizza. It was very embarrassing. Finally Adam took him to the car until the party was over.

I was hoping Ben would sleep but I arrived to the car to find 2 hungry babies and one screaming toddler. Jack and Adam walked across the street to Target to get diapers while I tandem fed the babies in the front seat of the car. A baby resting on each leg, one hand holding a blanket over me, while alternating flipping them over my shoulders and burping them. Ben cried the entire time.

Adam and Jack returned to the van bearing a gift for Ben. A huge icee! He promptly stuck his hand through the top, spilling it all over the car seat. Then he dumped it in his cup holder. Then he dunked his teddy bear in the cup holder.

Ugh. Can’t wait for the sitter to show up tonight. I would love to just go on a complete bender tonight, but I need the breast milk and I have no free time to recover.

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Booking Sleep Time

Yesterday was not a bad day as far as sleep is concerned. And nowadays, it is my primary concern!

Most mornings I wake up for the morning around 6am, on the couch with two babies on top of me and the sound of Ben’s feet running down the hallway towards me.

Thursday morning I woke up to the sound of my mother’s footsteps around 6:15. She came and sat next to me, but I quickly passed off a baby to her and told her to go downstairs so I could sleep. Amazingly the back rooms of our house were quiet until 8am.

I was so pleased to think the boys finally slept in so Adam could get some rest. He still wakes most nights with Ben, and sometimes Jack, but no one has sympathy for him. He never gets any naps. If there is a nap time available, he always defers to me. Good man. Tired man.

Unfortunately for Adam, the pitter patter of feet I heard coming from the back room around 8am was two fully dressed boys sugared up from their early morning foray to Starbucks. They snuck out to give me some extra rest.

That coupled with my afternoon nap in the gym sleep room (I booked Ben from 2-4pm and Mom watched the twins) put me in a good mood for once.

Adam had a work dinner Thursday night so Mom treated the kids to McDonalds.

No cooking or dirty dishes plus sleep! What a great day!

Beautiful Day at the East Bank Club

It meant had the energy and time to run around with Jack and Ben playing hide and seek after dinner. I often suffer from guilt that, since the twins were born, I yell so much more at the kids than playing with them. But at the end of the day Thursday I fell asleep with a clear conscious. For about 45 minutes, then it was time to feed again. Ha ha ha!

So I tried it again Friday afternoon. I brought both kids to the play room at the gym then Adam joined us at the pool. Mom watched the twins. Again I was able to play uninterrupted  with the older kids while only missing one feed.

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Iphone Breast Feeding Apps

I’ve been having a lot of trouble keeping track of the twins feeding schedule. Especially at night. I’ll hear them cry out and wake in a state of panic, disoriented and wondering if I’ve just fed the one that is crying or was it the other one? Sometimes it’s just gas! Also,

  • I want to make sure I’m feeding equally from each breast.
  • I want to make sure that each kid is switching sides regularly in case production is uneven.
  • I want to stretch Aaron’s feeds to 2 and 1/2 to 3 hours each. He has a tendency to feed for a small amount of time and often, which makes him gassy and cranky.
  • I want to keep track of Sam’s formula top ups. After putting Sam on the breast I will give him 2 ounces of formula is I feel he is still fussy.

iBaby Feed

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I’ve been trying out two different applications. The first one was an app for $.99 called iBaby Feed. I like how easy it is to track feeds, either entering it manually or simply just starting a timer when you start feeding. You can also analyze the feeds based on average feed length, time between feeds, and total feed time. However, it doesn’t take into account two kids.

So I downloaded the very expensive (for an iphone app) Baby Connect. At $4.99 you can do it all. Keep track of feeds, log in diaper changes, sleep, mood, activities, medical records and much more. Most importantly, it keeps track of more than one baby. It’s the mack daddy of record keepers for your infant. I don’t have the time or interest to track the babies every movement, but for a first time type A mother, or perhaps a nanny this package would be great.

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Weisman Park

Play date at Weisman ParkBy the way Moms, we hit Weisman Park Tuesday morning for a play date and found the water on. The weather has been so hot this year, it’s a great thing to keep in mind.

I tried to add the Map for Weisman Park, but couldn’t figure it out. Weird, I used to know how to do it. Too tired and pressed for time to figure it out right now. So here is a link.

It’s close to the brown line, by the Wellington stop. No bathrooms, but shops nearby. It features picnic benches, an unusual water feature that I haven’t seen anywhere else, two different play structures, a tiny house, a train, swings, soft surface and a bit of fake grass. Small enough to see your kids from anywhere in the park and most importantly, fully fenced off with only one entrance.

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Helping Hands

This week a bunch of my friend’s children have started summer break. Which made me realize that summer is right around the corner for Jack as well.

Soon instead of covering 3 kids for most of the day with 2 adults (my mother and I), I will start having 4 kids around with 2 adults supervising (my summer helper, Kristen, and I).

Also, my mother is staying with us. So she is here all the time. By 6am I normally wake her up to pass a baby off to her and she helps until 8 or 9 at night.

I’m starting to get nervous about coverage. Even hiring someone for 40 hours a week doesn’t cover all the times my mother is here. If Kristen works 9-5, how will I manage the evening hours until Adam gets home around 7:30 or 8? The hours from 5-8 are when all four kids get a breast feed, bathe, eat, brush teeth, and read bedtime stories. It’s a lot to juggle.

Last night, for example, mom fed both babies bottles in that time frame and bathed them while I cooked, then fed, bathed and read stories to the older boys. It will be impossible to do all this with just one adult around.

Ben loves Banana Bread

Still, if I have Kristen start later in the day, we will miss any chance we have of going out in the morning. I can’t cover 4 kids outside of the house. Yesterday when we went to the park, I had my mother holding one baby, I was breast feeding another, and I repeatedly had to ask my girlfriends to help me with Ben, who decided to have a series of hissy fits for no apparent reason. He kept bawling loudly on the ground while I sat helpless. Other mothers eyed him awkwardly, wondering whose kid was being neglected. That’s 3 adults needed for 4 kids! In fact, even with a helper, I’m scared to go anywhere on my own!

I didn’t manage to get any pictures of our play date at Supera Park yesterday, since I didn’t have a hand free the entire time, but I did get a photo of Ben the next morning, his bed head arranged peacock style, eating the banana bread our friend Kelly baked and gave us that day. Yummy!

And just as I was worried about handling all the kids on my own, this afternoon I left the twins with Mom and took Ben to pick up Jack from school. When I returned home, both kids were screaming from hunger. I tandem fed them while Jack and Ben played at my feet. Mom disappeared downstairs for a few minutes. In those few minutes they had both dumped a bunch of little toys that were easy to trip on everywhere. One minute later Jack slipped while running on one of the toys, slid and banged his head into the corner of the table. He was crying and bleeding. I pulled the babies off me, resulting in three out of four hysterically crying kids at once. I checked Jack’s head, blood was dripping out but quickly stopped. All the while I kept my eye on Ben, who has a tendency to want to either hug or pet the babies until they cry. It was a very stressful moment which seemed to last forever. I was tired and everyone needed attention immediately. But there was only one of me.

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