I wonder how many of our family members will celebrate this way? Will we still be like this when my birthday rolls around in December? Only time will tell.
Adam didn’t seem bothered by the lack of things to do. In fact, since he is an over planner, having nothing to do and nowhere to go made it so he wasn’t too busy for once.
He was able to go out for a morning run, followed by a walk with Ben.
For his father’s day present, he asked that each kid spend time with him. Then he asked that each kid say how they wanted to spend time with him. There were requests for walks, reading and of course, video gaming.
In the morning he opened up many cards and presents from family members.
Also this year he received phone call from many friends, many more than usual. He is not on social media so the fact that they remember is even more touching.
We got him Airpods. He is constantly telling clients to hold on a second, he just has to unravel or find his earphones. These go on much easier and they have a way to find them when they are lost.
Also, we got him a pair of the new Allbirds Tree Runners. (I’m in love with the brand, well made but also woke.)
Adam requested pizza for dinner which we made from scratch.
For dessert, home made chocolate eclairs.
Stay tuned for the second of Adam’s days this weekend – Father’s Day.
Sam and Aaron’s birthday arrived in the middle of our ‘Shelter at Home’ ordinance.
We did the best we could, considering all our normal birthday rituals were not possible at this time.
We had some successes and some failures.
I started the day with the alarm ringing at an ungodly hour so I could start making doughnuts that I normally buy at a store.
They were a huge success, like a fluffy funnel cake. They made the usual store bought ones seem stale by comparison. It doesn’t mean when things go back to normal I’m still going to wake up at the crack of dawn again just to make these, though.
The night before, Adam and I had set up a sparkling entrance and a balloon drop.
I was awake and in the kitchen when they woke up, making those darn doughnuts. I could hear them whispering (so they wouldn’t wake up their brothers) excitedly about the new sparkling entrance. For the millionth time, I thought how lucky they were to be twins, to have a good friend to share these special moments with.
When everyone else woke up, we let them pull down the balloon drop.
When the balloons dropped, we revealed that we had hidden presents inside some of the balloons.
They found cash inside a bunch of different balloons. They gathered it together and split it evenly between the two of them.
I tried to dole out the surprises during the day. After watching a Harry Potter movie, they asked for their next surprise. While they were watching the movie, Jack and I took some old yarn that I used to make Hanukkah Bear costumes out of (Fable’s Fortnite Hair) and created a spy themed treasure hunt.
We strung the string through Jack and the twin’s bedroom. They had to crouch and duck like spies avoiding lasers, following their own string color until they found the prize.
Jack hid their presents, Lego building sets, in their school back packs. He figured they would NEVER think to look there. He was right.
A few hours later they asked for another surprise. This time they each had to solve a home made puzzle to find it. Then, they had to put their puzzles together to get the clue.
I cut out foot prints and spray painted them with chalk spray. They followed the trail of footprints. It led them from the front door, around the side of the house, and up to the back deck…
On the deck they found a “Connect 4 Shots” game. It’s basically connect four but you throw the balls instead of just placing them in a slot. They enjoyed the hunt, but they weren’t that into the game.
After another break, they asked for another surprise. This time I had them fill out a cipher to find a clue that would lead them to their next present.
In the evening, Aaron requested tacos for dinner.
The twins also wanted chocolate cake with chocolate frosting for dessert.
After cake, we showed them a video of all the people who wished them a happy birthday. Many of their friends from school sent video clips. Also their family members made an incredible effort. They really like the video clip Aunt Lara and Uncle Brent sent with their drone.
My final surprise was a taco piñata for them to bust up.
Besides a few cooking failures and some bad choices for gifts for Sam (he is very difficult to buy for), I’d chalk this up as a birthday success. Judging from the comments from the twins and Ben, I think they would say so too.
By the way, I put up the photos of Jack’s Bar Mitzvah.
I wanted to write a flowering blog post about what an amazing son I have and how the party went off without a hitch, but by the time I got the photos, everyone was completely overwhelmed with Coronavirus.
I reserve the right to come back at some point and write about it, but in the mean time, hope you enjoy seeing the photos…
It has been another two weeks of the “Shelter at Home” ordinance with no end in sight.
In the past two weeks, we were informed that schools will not reopen for the rest of the year.
We were also informed that the state of Illinois will continue to “Shelter at Home” for the entire month of May.
As time goes on and we settle into this long lock down, I can’t help but reflect.
Is it because we have more time to sit around and think about our lives?
Or is it because life as we know it has been ripped out from under us and we are all at home picking up the pieces? Perhaps we find they no longer fit as well as they could or should.
Lately I’ve been noticing how happy I am for what I don’t have.
I don’t have a dog I have to stress walk every day, dodging fellow dog walkers in a game of chicken.
I don’t have a cleaner I have to pay then do the work myself, or worry I’m starving someone by not paying them during this time.
I don’t have to wake up in a panic every single school morning, feeling that I’m already behind and won’t be able to get everything done that I need to. Now Adam and I can lay in bed and snuggle, chatting leisurely and only getting out of bed when one of the kids starts complaining that they are hungry. (I think this is my favorite part of this quarantine.)
I don’t have any sort of beauty ritual. No dying, plucking, waxing, or painting that some expert needs to do to me on a normal basis.
I don’t even have a haircut that needs cutting that often. I’m lucky if I go every six months. So happy I never got those bangs I was thinking about!
Now, the boys (and man) in the house are a different story. This week Adam and Ben reached their comfort limit, their hair was just too long. So, in addition to my new ‘Shelter at Home’ job of full time teacher, I became a hairdresser too.
Adam was so annoyed by his Ronald McDonald bushy sides that he was walking around with a cap on most days. Finally, he let me try to cut it. We figured if I did as bad of a job as I did the last two times he let me cut it, he would just shave it off.
After Ben saw Adam’s hair, he let me have a go at his…
Ben’s is a bit patchy in the back but, hey, he can’t see it. I figure it will grow out before anyone notices.
I actually thought it would much worse. We couldn’t find the clipper guards in the house, so I did this with just a pair of kitchen scissors and a comb!
I’ve also been trying to cook new things. And bake. I went to the supermarket three different times and each time could not find flour so the next time I went to Costco I broke down and bought a 25 pound bag of it.
You think I’m crazy but a short two weeks later I’m almost done with one of the bins.
Another highlights of the past two weeks was a basement Easter Egg hunt.
The remote learning has started to settle into a routine. We’ve fallen into a staggered schedule, which gives me less time but makes me more available for all of my needy kids. (Except Sam. He can work independently.)
When we can, we try to get the kids out for some exercise and fresh air. At first they were too scared to go anywhere but the deck.
Eventually we got them out for a walk, with masks.
When they saw all the people out and about without masks, we were able to go further. Today we found a patch of grass where we could kick the soccer ball around and throw the football.
Next weekend is the twins birthday. They will not get their annual Dunkin Donut breakfast, or dinner out at the restaurant of their choice. They will not give out little gifts to their classmates. They will not get a birthday party either. Instead I must find a way to make this birthday special for them without throwing a bunch of money at it. It is one of the things I have been reflecting on these days. Can a birthday be special for the kids without all the bells and whistles? And how did we get to a place where it may not be in the first place?
It feels like the 5th month that I gave birth to any of my kids.The excitement of the new situation has died down, the casseroles and sympathy have stopped rolling in, but you are still just as, if not more, exhausted as before. And now being alone in your new reality is really starting to set in.
This past week three of the kids had Spring Break. It was helpful, as the one kid who didn’t was my special needs kid. Being able to devote all my time to finishing his work is a full time job and I was glad this week to be able to cover it. One day we started at 10am and by 8:30pm we still had one more thing to do!
Most days can feel like Groundhog day in the house. Which makes every little event that happens a big deal, a marker to show that time is indeed moving on.
One night we got a delivery from our friend who owns Geja’s, a fondue restaurant. He treated us to salads, cheese and chocolate fondue.
The kids were super excited for the special treat and, as a bonus, we got more kids hooked on eating salad!
I’ve also been trying to cook new things. Every time I go to the store I try to find something new or different, mostly for Ben who loves trying new things.
We celebrated Passover last week. I couldn’t find a Shankbone so skipped the Seder plate. Also, no brisket or turkey breast so we ended up with Flank Steak with a gremolata sauce. And we bought the last box of Matzoh, which happened to be everything flavor and gluten free. But hey, like the Jews in Ancient Egypt, we had to be flexible with our food.
I’ve tried a few other new things too. Chinese lettuce cups….
English meat pies….
Swordfish with carrots and chimichurri…
We’ve tried our best to keep the kids off screens and interacting with us. Adam has been good about getting them to read to him most days.
One day it was nice out so we set up the bags and giant jenga.
Some of the kids did an impromptu work out.
In fact, daily workouts have been a big thing for the three younger kids…
One cold day I managed to get the kids out for a walk with the promise of hot chocolate afterwards. They are scared to be outside so mostly we stay indoors.
Sometimes we do workout videos.
Sometimes the kids workout on their own.
We’ve done more puzzles.
Lots more puzzles.
Or board games.
And really just coming up with any old game that keeps them busy and engaged.
I read today that New York is keeping their kids out of school for the rest of the year so I’m bracing myself for that inevitability as well.
Hope everyone reading is staying safe, is healthy and keeping their sanity in check. Look forward to seeing you – face to face – on the other side.
Although it’s only been two weeks since the “Shelter at Home” order has put in place, in many ways it seems like we’ve been at it for much, much longer.
While looking at my photos for this blog, I scrolled up until I reached some pictures that were taken pre-coronavirus. There the twins were, wrestling with their friends on the school lawn. I scrolled through picture after picture of us eating out. Or the kids rolling around in the foam pits at the trampoline park.
Everything that looked normal a few weeks ago now fills me with the anxiety of someone with severe OCD. Those foam pits are a cesspool for germs! Those twins wrestling on the lawn with their friends are going to get everyone sick! Look how close the waiter is standing to our table. Definitely less than six feet!
And it’s not just the germ phobia, when your entire world grinds to a stop, you start to rethink everything in your life.
Like, why did I think I was so clever to follow a JIT (just in time) management strategy to my grocery shopping? Before Covid-19, I prided myself on keeping low inventory and visiting the grocery store every two days. I reasoned this kept our costs down. But what about the cost of my time? I could have saved three extra hours a week with bigger, more thoughtful shopping trips. Nowadays I try to make it five or six days. Sometimes it means that the family is eating two or three different meals on a single evening, but surprisingly it does not equal more waste.
There are some perks to being stuck at home. I am surprisingly happy to be able to wear the same pajamas for days, only to shower and change them for new pajamas. And I don’t miss all the school drop off and pick ups, as well as shuffling the kids around in the car to after school activities.
I even don’t mind taking over the position of full time teacher. No, I don’t want to do it for the next 10 years of my life, but it is kind of nice to see what the kids are up to and to have some technology free time with them. These school sessions help me learn more about their strengths and weaknesses as well as give us some time to bond.
In fact, the isolation period has actually made me more social, not less. I spend much more times with my kids and husband, but I also spend more time with my friends. Everyone is reaching out from across the globe to check in with each other, to marvel at these dystopian times, to trade stories and tips with each other. My high school girlfriends and I have signed onto a new app called, “Houseparty”. Many nights I meet up with them for a glass of wine and a good chat.
Truth be told, the only thing I miss since we got quarantined is hunger. Lack of exercise and unlimited access to a fully stocked fridge are a dangerous combination.
Still I realize how lucky we are. How my husband still has a job, and unlike some of our restaurant and retail friends, our lives have not been jolted to a stop with no clear view of the future. And that so far, we are healthy, not just free of Covid-19, but also not in the high risk age group and without any secondary medical conditions.
Wishing everyone who reads this hope and health in these uncertain times. And look forward to seeing you IN PERSON someday soon….
On the fourth day of Hanukkah, Sam also told me that the Hanukkah bears have been forgetting to include their big friend. So, on the fifth night, he joined the bear’s book fort.
On the sixth night, the bears got naughty with shaving cream.
And on the seventh night, the bears showed up in our underwear.
The eighth and final night, the bears they got the ball pit out.
The ball pit grabbed a lot of attention from the kids!
The entire time, my father was here, giving our kids much needed attention.
We managed to get out a bit with the kids too. One night, we went to see the Illumination lights at the Morton Arboretum.
Afterwards, we ate dinner at Maggiano’s. An impromptu game of telephone had us giggling and laughing the entire time.
We also managed to get out a bit without the kids, thanks to my father.
We got to see my friend Jessica who lives in Florida but was visiting her husband’s family in the suburbs.
And we had another date night, this time to see the Andy Warhol exhibit at the Art Institute followed by a fabulous dinner at Trattoria 10.
It was really nice this year to have every day of Hanukkah off of school. The boys are getting along much better these day, they are all getting older and can play things together. The dreidel game no longer ends in tears. For days, they have been obsessed with a four person Xbox game called, “Gang Beast.” I’m not sure how you win, but it sure gets a lot of giggling and screaming.
It was really nice having my father here. Managing the house with the kids in it all the time was so much easier with him around. He was so helpful, not just giving the kids tons of attention, and babysitting so Adam and I could go out, and cleaning things, but he fixed a bunch of things around the house for us – Jack’s desk drawer, a leaky sink, and a closet door. Everyone was so sad to say goodbye to him today.
Hope everyone reading this is enjoying their holiday as well!
Hanukkah started badly. I woke up after an epic night out for Adam’s friend’s 50th birthday and Sam said, “The Hanukkah Bears forgot to show up.”
I felt terrible. So, when we went out for Dim Sum that morning, I quickly staged them.
The boys found them when we got back.
We celebrated the first night of Hanukkah and played the first of many Dreidel games.
That night I almost forgot again! But Jack reminded my by asking me what I had planned. Yes, he is so old he is in cahoots with me now.
The morning after I set up the Bear vs. Army men scene, I woke up to the sound of crashing. Someone had knocked down one of the forts when they were looking at it. Then, I heard Sam’s little voice, “The Hanukkah Bears won!”.
My Dad has been an incredible help while he has been here. Having an extra adult around has given the kids a much richer vacation. They get so much more attention!
He brought up my old science fair project to show the kids.
Grandpa is teaching Sam chess.
And he can stay with some kids while I take others out, like this Pokeman walk.
Occasionally, I was able to get all the kids out for some fresh air and sunshine.
Grandpa is always around helping when needed. Here he is helping Aaron crack his Geode, a present for Hanukkah.
After another night of Hanukkah, opening wonderful gifts and playing more Dreidel games, I set up the bears again.
This time, I set up a scene from the Blue Man Group, a show we saw for my birthday. For dessert that night, the kids got to try their first Twinkie. (And hopefully their last?)
Last night was Christmas Eve, we celebrated it with Matzoh Ball soup and Latkes.
Ben helped make the Latkes.
He was very happy with the way they came out.
We opened more presents! Aaron got this time a 3D printing pen from Aunt Lara and her family.
Jack and Sam split a Nintendo and every night they have been opening new games.
This morning, the kids found the Bears by the fireplace.
The Bears stole Santa’s sack of goodies.
When they opened Santa’s bag, they found lots of Christmas candy.
Today we are continuing the Jewish tradition of movies and Chinese food on Christmas day. Again, thanks to my father, we were able to take the older boys to see the new Star Wars movie while he watched the twins.